July 30, 2012

Self- worth

Have you ever had one of those days where you just think "Holy crap, I am one ugly human being".... Let me tell you... you're not. I know how easy it is to feel like that, and it's even harder when you have people around you that name call because they think it's funny or a term of endearment.
When people say to me they hate something about themselves I just counter that and say... what do you like about yourself?
This morning I woke up, looked in the mirror and said "Jess. You are one seriously pasty chick" But then I thought. That's ok, let's look at the positive things. I like my eyes, I like my lips and I like how my body actually has a shape- other than stick or ball. There is nothing wrong with those shapes, but my point is that we all need to start accepting ourselves the way we are. I did this survey this morning (feel free to do it)

http://mayouthsurvey.2012.sgizmo.com/s3/- by Mission Australia.

Negative Relationships

It made me reassess how I see myself.
Sometimes making yourself feel better about how you look or how you are means that you have to remove those people in your life who negative. I mean... that's easier said than done...

Sometimes.. You really do just have to cut off all ties.
Step 1: Make a list of the things that that person does that you don't like or makes you feel bad
Step 2: Delete/ throw away their number. Don't tell them that you are doing it, and don't say goodbye
Step 3: Surround yourself with positive people.

Mirror Hate

You don't like what you see in the mirror. Great. That means that you care. Last year I refused to look in to a mirror that didn't just show my face. I actually covered all my of my full length mirror in magazine articles about positivity and only left a space for my face. (Excuse the rhyme). I have come to realize that it's not healthy to hate how you look. Every one was born different, whether you are skinny or fat, stunning or average, tan or pasty (like me), it doesn't matter. As long as you're healthy you are fine. Image doesn't reflect the inside and it's silly to spend so much time and effort trying to make yourself look like the person you think you are.

Step 1: Combat every negative that comes into your mind. Eg. My face is covered in pimples.... but my hair is looking really good today
Step 2: Reassure yourself that there is nothing wrong with you. BECAUSE THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH WHO YOU ARE
Step 3: Talk to a good friend about how you feel. Sometimes reassurance from someone else is the best thing.


When I say be assertive, I don't mean be a bitch, I mean look out for yourself whilst looking out for others.
There is no point you stressing about what other people think, and therefore not doing something because you don't want people to think badly of you. If you want to say something, say it, and say it loud. Don't whisper it. You are not a mouse. You are a person and you deserve to be heard.
If you listen to people, then you therefore deserve to be heard. It's just the simple logic of being social. Don't be afraid of saying something that goes against the other person, because sometimes that is what can make a friendship. I know that if I come across someone who agrees with everything I say then it's going to frustrate me and eventually bore me. Don't be like that. You all have an opinion. So let's start using it.... don't just let it sit there in your mind.